About the process of a man 'taking his Balls back from his mother' or, for a woman 'taking her Center back from her father, there are some significant consideration.
First, to go through this process, someone who has been through this initiation would need to hold space. Someone who has not been through the initiation cannot guide you through this and you would be misguided that you have done such process when in REALITY you have not. Second, such big initiation, are better held in physical presence than online.
Having the concept that you will do one process 'online' just before visiting your parents, that will not be hooked with your Mother, or resent her, or want to take revenge on her, or be angry, scared about her is a fantasy world. Transformation happens in reality. Transformation takes time.
The process of getting out of your parents bubble has many layers:
- It takes to go through a number of Completing Incomplete Emotions from your childhood with them. How many have you done?
- It takes to have practiced keeping your center in all circumstances. What is your current practice about this?
- It takes to have started decontamination your child ego state from your adult ego state. Who is your buddy? How many behaviors have your taken out of your adult ego state?
- It takes that you can feel all 4 FEELINGS (not EMOTIONS) to a certain percentage consciously. Have you participated in Rage Club Series? Fear Club Series?
- It takes that you have shifted from Verbal Reality ('it would be a great idea to do this process) to Experiential Reality (experientially feeling the great pain of not Being a Man because you still blame women - your Mother, teachers, sisters, aunts, ... etc for your state of Being a Boy).
Please do not take Authentic Adulthood Initiatory Processes lightly. You will hinder them and yourself by doing so.